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Pastoring a Narcissist
You've heard it said: Pastoring would be wonderful if it weren't for the people.
Narcissistic people drive a leader crazy. Psychology Today calls them Crazy Makers. They turn God's work into a competition. They hurt the people you care about. They are about one thing — and it is not Jesus, His church, or supporting you. They live to win, even if they have to cheat to win.
This book is for the pastor who is tired of losing ground to people like that.
THE DARK TRIAD REALITY
Every church has them. You pastor narcissistic people, manipulative people, and yes, if many people gather, at least one or two sociopaths or psychopaths. The Dark Triad is real, and ignoring it doesn't make it go away. It costs you, good people.
Scripture didn't ignore them either:
Lucifer led a revolt against the Creator of the Universe. Narcissism. He lost heaven over it.
King Saul became so consumed by how events affected him that he spent his energy trying to destroy David rather than leading Israel.
Diotrephes loved to have the preeminence — and blocked the influence of the Apostle John to protect his turf.
In each case, a response was taken. This book gives you a strategy for dealing with these difficult people.
WHAT YOU'LL LEARN
In Pastoring Narcissists in the Dark Triad, you will learn:
The most common symptoms of narcissism — so you are able to recognize what you're dealing with earlier.
How Biblical figures displayed narcissistic patterns, and what those examples teach us about identifying and responding to such people.
How a narcissist injures others, including you and your family — and how to limit that damage
A pastor's approach (not a psychologist's) — that provides practical steps for dealing with narcissists. These come from someone who has managed narcissists while keeping them from destroying the church, and in some instances was able to keep them as part of the local church while limiting their influence.
How to get ahead of the curve if you're a new pastor — before a narcissist defines your early ministry.
Why mishandling narcissists costs you good people — and how the parable of the tares among the wheat shows the danger of handling narcissists incorrectly..
What Pastors Are Saying
"Tremendous book. Best book on this subject that I have ever read!" — Goodreads reviewer
“This book was most helpful. A must-read.” Verified Amazon reviewer: SSReview
“Must read for pastors and saints. Excellent read as always with Carlton Coon. This is a very needed book in the time we live in. This book helps you deal with those around you and yourself if you apply its principles.” Verified Amazon Reviewer: Bro. D
“Excellent book, and I recommend everyone read it! Best book on this subject.” Verified Amazon Reviewer: Anthony
“Where was this book when I started pastoring thirty years ago? After reading this, I realized that I blamed myself for things beyond my control.” Amazon review: Veteran pastor.
ABOUT THE AUTHOR
Carlton Coon Sr. has led three congregations to healthy growth, directed North American Missions for the UPCI, and is now leading the launch of UPCI Sages a ministry to those at or near retirement age. He is the author of over 40 books — none of them unproven. A significant number of the books, including Pastoring a Narcissist, are part of his Ministerial Enrichment Series.
The goal isn't just surviving the narcissist in your church. It's protecting the body of Christ — your people, your family, and your calling.
Don't be a statistic. Learn a veteran pastor's approach to some of the most difficult people you will ever lead.
Also available on Amazon - eBook, audiobook, and print
Also available: Book 2: Pastoring a Manipulator the two-book set covers both narcissists and manipulators. [Get both for ONLY $32.99 at CarltonCoon.com→]
Also in the Ministerial Enrichment Series
You've heard it said: Pastoring would be wonderful if it weren't for the people.
Narcissistic people drive a leader crazy. Psychology Today calls them Crazy Makers. They turn God's work into a competition. They hurt the people you care about. They are about one thing — and it is not Jesus, His church, or supporting you. They live to win, even if they have to cheat to win.
This book is for the pastor who is tired of losing ground to people like that.
THE DARK TRIAD REALITY
Every church has them. You pastor narcissistic people, manipulative people, and yes, if many people gather, at least one or two sociopaths or psychopaths. The Dark Triad is real, and ignoring it doesn't make it go away. It costs you, good people.
Scripture didn't ignore them either:
Lucifer led a revolt against the Creator of the Universe. Narcissism. He lost heaven over it.
King Saul became so consumed by how events affected him that he spent his energy trying to destroy David rather than leading Israel.
Diotrephes loved to have the preeminence — and blocked the influence of the Apostle John to protect his turf.
In each case, a response was taken. This book gives you a strategy for dealing with these difficult people.
WHAT YOU'LL LEARN
In Pastoring Narcissists in the Dark Triad, you will learn:
The most common symptoms of narcissism — so you are able to recognize what you're dealing with earlier.
How Biblical figures displayed narcissistic patterns, and what those examples teach us about identifying and responding to such people.
How a narcissist injures others, including you and your family — and how to limit that damage
A pastor's approach (not a psychologist's) — that provides practical steps for dealing with narcissists. These come from someone who has managed narcissists while keeping them from destroying the church, and in some instances was able to keep them as part of the local church while limiting their influence.
How to get ahead of the curve if you're a new pastor — before a narcissist defines your early ministry.
Why mishandling narcissists costs you good people — and how the parable of the tares among the wheat shows the danger of handling narcissists incorrectly..
What Pastors Are Saying
"Tremendous book. Best book on this subject that I have ever read!" — Goodreads reviewer
“This book was most helpful. A must-read.” Verified Amazon reviewer: SSReview
“Must read for pastors and saints. Excellent read as always with Carlton Coon. This is a very needed book in the time we live in. This book helps you deal with those around you and yourself if you apply its principles.” Verified Amazon Reviewer: Bro. D
“Excellent book, and I recommend everyone read it! Best book on this subject.” Verified Amazon Reviewer: Anthony
“Where was this book when I started pastoring thirty years ago? After reading this, I realized that I blamed myself for things beyond my control.” Amazon review: Veteran pastor.
ABOUT THE AUTHOR
Carlton Coon Sr. has led three congregations to healthy growth, directed North American Missions for the UPCI, and is now leading the launch of UPCI Sages a ministry to those at or near retirement age. He is the author of over 40 books — none of them unproven. A significant number of the books, including Pastoring a Narcissist, are part of his Ministerial Enrichment Series.
The goal isn't just surviving the narcissist in your church. It's protecting the body of Christ — your people, your family, and your calling.
Don't be a statistic. Learn a veteran pastor's approach to some of the most difficult people you will ever lead.
Also available on Amazon - eBook, audiobook, and print
Also available: Book 2: Pastoring a Manipulator the two-book set covers both narcissists and manipulators. [Get both for ONLY $32.99 at CarltonCoon.com→]